I really, really want to put this on my profile, but I'm afraid it will come off unnecessarily bitchy and rude. So here goes:
Dear OKCupid users,
LEARN HOW TO FUCKING COMMUNICATE. Okay, that was pretty harsh. But seriously? You give me nothing to respond to. Nothing! I don't stop writing to blow you off, it's because you don't know how to write to another person. In order to communicate on the internet, written words are going to have to be exchanged and for the sole purpose of getting to know someone else, essentially letters are going to need to be written.
It's like, I can see you almost getting there, starting well and then you just...don't take the time to finish.
For example "hi, how are you" is a good start, but it should not be the entire contents of your message because I only have one word to say back to that and I'm probably not even going to make that much effort.
"I like the movie Usual Suspects, too!" Okay, that's a good try! You read through my profile and paid attention to what I like and tried to find common ground. A step in a positive direction. But then you just leave it there. There's really no direction to go from there. I already know I like it. I have no idea what you like about it, or what we can discuss about it or why else you messaged me because if it's based on just one movie, then...I think this is already doomed.
So tip #1: Either elaborate on information you give about yourself so that I learn more about you, or ask questions about me so that I have something I can write back to you about.
Here's a hint: Think about how it would sound if you were sitting at a dinner table with another person. "I like that movie." "That's....cool." *awkward silence*
Another example. Since I like to have enough substance to respond to, I like to give other people that courtesy by actually talking to them. So I will write some things about me and ask questions about them to give various topics that could be further discussed. Instead I am me with "cell phones are easier!" and "that manifesto" you wrote. Okay, so what the hell are we even doing on here then?
Tip #2: If you do not want to write messages with me then do not message me in the first place!
One more thing, the S&M stuff I see on there is starting to weird me out. I don't know why OKcupid is giving me this "dom" guys or what it's trying to say about me as a person, but I do not like it. There's plenty of other forums to meet people into that stuff, so take it over that way because it instantly creeps me out that you're just throwing that into the public masses.
Tip #3: TMI is not the same thing as putting facts about yourself in a profile so that I can get to know you.
Sincerely,
A
There, I think that's everything I wanted to say! Feels good to air that out!
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